Ties that Bind No Longer

ties that bind no longer

there is no place to which I can return
no one to turn to
no one to mourn

mourning was complete a lifetime past
as they and I, once close,
had drifted. years and oceans
oceans of years
separate us

brief letters, briefer still
until the only words
are, “are you there?” “I’m here”

then silence

then a card to say, “they are no more”
and “who are you
that you should care?”

a stranger

“Ties that Bind No Longer”. Copyright © 2017-01-21, by Lizl Bennefeld. All rights reserved.

5 thoughts on “Ties that Bind No Longer

    1. Also family relationships. Our families have been spread broadly across the country. With scant contact even at the beginning (I have more than 60 first cousins on my father’s side of the family), as time gets short and demands of living grow, it becomes impossible even to keep track of names and ever-changing addresses. Everyone moves on. Without more ties than family relationships and without physical proximity, ties of friendship/communication cannot easily form.

      I wish that my mother had not resisted the idea of entering an assisted living facility. When she finally entered under hospice care, she had interactions again with people for those final weeks before she lost consciousness and died. That was good. I (we?) must resist the temptation to isolate as we move through life. I do not want to lose track of the sound and feel of the webs of life that can bind us together. I in particular, crave isolation; it is my habitual, most comfortable living situation, but it is not sustainable in the long run, nor is it remediable as one becomes increasingly submerged in that familiar ease.



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